Today I Vlog for all my other gay dads out there! In Portland this weekend, the pride parade will held on Father’s Day. Like many Pride Parades, our lifestyle will be in full display. Beautiful men and women will be celebrating our right to exist without persecution while also celebrating the amazing gains that have been made in the past few decades on the backs of so many men and women who had to live in scary and shameful closets of uncertainty and hate. I am so proud and happy of our gay community and seeing as Pride falls on Father’s Day I just want to make sure that a little light from the sun and rainbows shine on gay mom and dads this weekend.
We aren’t as visible anymore. Our club days are behind us. We can no longer party till all hours because at the crack of dawn our doors will open and the pitter-patter of little feet will come into our rooms oblivious to any hangover or shenanigans from the night before.
Our washboard abs have given way to washing machines and Dad bods.
We cannot necessarily recount every episode of RuPaul’s Drag Race or Real Houewives but could tell you all about Daniel Tiger, Wild Cratts, Odd Squad, and random YouTube videos of kids playing video games.
Glitter is still very much a part of our lives but more from a desperate stuggle to vacuum it up rather that actually wearing it!
You won’t find as often on the dance floors, go go boy boxes, or stages breaking it down to our favorite diva anthems but we are driving bleary eyed in cars listening to the Kidz Bopz versions of those song as we try to make it to activities or home in time for the dreaded bedtime routine.
But while we are not as visible, we are playing an important role in the progress and growth of our community. We are raising the next generation of hearts and minds that will hopefully break down even more barriers that will continue to create a world we can just exist and easily thrive as gay men and women. We are breaking down barriers as we join PTA’s, volunteer at schools, go to play dates, and simply walk down the streets little hands in big hands as same sex families.
Our community is so beautiful and everyone has a place. And while some of you might not understand why gay men, especially, would want to have children just take step back and share some pride with these men. Raising kids isn’t for everyone and it is certainly not a choice that everyone has to make. The beauty is that we continue to gain the freedom to lead any type of lifestyle why want!
So please share some Pride this month with the gay families. Share some Pride with men and women who came out to their wives and husbands, knowing it would break this hearts, so they could live in their own truth and find true love. They can now raise their kids in true happiness. Share some Pride with families that get pregnant with donors and surrogates, many of whom never imagined that they could have a family and children especially their own biological ones. Share Pride with many same sex couple that are opening their homes to the thousands of kids who are in foster care. We know what it’s like to feel alone and hopeless at times so now we can share our love with kids who truly need it.
So as you all march through your cities celebrating our beautiful community, give a wink, blow a kiss, give a hug or nod to the many gay families that will be lining the streets this month. Show our kids what this community is all about and who they will be advocating for in the future. We are all in this together.
Happy Pride Everyone! Thank you for listening.
Right when we brought Dillon (our oldest son) we quickly realized we needed to think of what he would call us! He quickly named my husband Daddy and upon hearing his 2 year old friend call one of his 2 dads "Doda", Dillon decided on Dodie. After years of constantly lobbying for "Papa", I have grown to love and adore my name Dodie Here is a blog about my journey as Dillon and Jerry's Dodie!
My son Dillon was in foster care for 1,377 Days. We finalized our adoption of this firecracker boy in March of 2015 a few months before his 6th birthday. We are now in the process of adopting Dillon's younger brother "Jerry" from foster care! This blog will help paint a picture of two gay men raising two boys in this every changing world.